With our closing discussion of living a lie or knowing the truth, I don't have a single answer. Part of me says, in regards to the dead husband that cheated and you find a letter, no I wouldn't want to know. But I wouldn't want to know not only because I would want to remember him as how I saw him, as the loving husband that would likely have done anything for me, but because I can't change the past. And I know I can't change the past in any situation, but if the husband was still alive, I could at least talk to him, ask what he was thinking in a sense of, was he drunk? did she convince him that I (as his wife) wouldn't find out? what lead up to him cheating on me? I would want to know the answer to those questions, and even though I'd be completely pissed at him and very likely want a divorce, it would also depend on his answers what I would finally do.
Comparatively, if I was believing something to be true that wasn't, I would want to be corrected (using the Santa Claus example from class, or Haley's book reference). And while some things are harder to accept as being false than others (for example, we'd much rather find out that Santa isn't real than find out our husband had an affair), there will always be obstacles in life that are harder to get over than others. But what we have to realize is that eventually, we will get over them, and move on with our lives. Learning the truth can be devastating, and we've all heard that 'truth hurts', but if I'm being mislead by something, for the most part, I'd like to know what is really going on and discover the truth.
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